10-18-2022 6:37am

Domestic Abuse

Anita Johnson-Brown Editor

Domestic violence or abuse by an intimate partner is a public health crisis among women and men. Domestic violence consists of mental, emotional, sexual, stalking, physical, financial, religious, intimidation, and threats of violence.

Partners, friends, relatives, co-workers, or anyone who shows signs of aggressive behavior, verbal slander or put-downs, shaming you in front of other people or while alone, and forcing you to do things you have no interest in, can be considered an abuser. Some abusers keep their abuse hidden because of the desire to remain a pillar of society, in the public eye.

Abusers lack being satisfied and crave to challenge you, and themselves, by winning a board game, cooking, and minor everyday routines, such as cleaning your home. Abusers will nitpick but show signs of kindness at times, to pull the victim back into what they think is a loving relationship.

The Abuser is cunning and knowledgable, they study your every move, seeking out your weaknesses, flaws, and history of downfalls against you in an attempt to lower your self-esteem, to put it bluntly, they are dangerous and you are their prey. Domestic Violent people are confused about love and obsession and you can almost bet, have experienced abuse from another person as a child, or as a teenager.

The abuser wants you to depend on them, by preventing you from achieving your goals and keeping you isolated from friends and even relatives, some abusers will threaten family members, others close to you, and even co-workers, don't be surprised, by your fluctuation between jobs, due to excessive absences, because your partner needs you at home to commit to relationship duties, and satisfy sexual urges on command, as a result, you get fired. It's possible that an abusive partner will develop friendships with your co-workers and bosses, which provides an opportunity, for the abuser to control your lifestyle and financial wellness, this person may call your job from time-to-time, to see if you are at work, and engage in negative conversation, on your behalf.

The abuser sees the victim as an object, to break down mentally and emotionally, The domestic violent person ensures you feel a sense of sadness and depression. Abusive individuals may even become intimately aroused after creating a peril of psychological terror for the victim to experience, as an edge to gain control, and regulate the victim's every move, desire, and need.

Never assume that it's okay to be subjected to mental or emotional abuse, it is the same as physical abuse, and the underlying eye can spot a person who suffers from the effects of psychological trauma.

The abused person may not be physically injured, but your body language, speech, personality, emotional behavior, and appearance will change, this is your body's way of saying help me, save me.

The victim stays in the relationship because they see no way out, they lack the financial resources, and education, and feel sorry for the abuser or may have no one to help them leave the situation. You must think about your safety, and your life, especially if you have children.

Statistics Indicate

1 in 4 females and 1 in 10 males have undergone sexual brutality, physical abuse, or have been stalked by an intimate companion.
Approximately 10 million individuals encounter domestic violence yearly.
Domestic Abuse has no bearing on age, ethnicity, or sexual orientation; Domestic violence affects families, men, women, and kids of all different groups, theologies, and societies.

The signs of abuse include repeated bumps, bruises, broken bones, and other injuries. Victims will hesitate to get medical treatment and endure injuries during gestation. An abused victim is usually a familiar patient, in the hospital, or emergency room, who tries to commit suicide, excessively uses alcohol or drugs, is terrified, lacks freedom, and has an uncommunicative demeanor.

Many individuals, and families, may consider domestic violence as a private matter. There is Help, Hope, and Support to end Domestic Abuse.